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The Power Within: Stability

Stability is not something that is independent of our ups and downs. It is very much part and parcel of the ebb and flow of life. It is invaluable and always there. Changes and challenges are too equally a constant in our lives. As I write this very article the cosmos and astronomical objects including the earth is spinning on its own axis; in motion and constantly changing! Sometimes changes that we experience are wanted such as a new job, a new home, work related opportunities and other times they are unwanted such as experiencing loss, relationship break-ups, unemployment. Some changes seem favorable and others not so much.  As a result of change we can suddenly experience all kinds of stress, anxieties and insecurities as well as disappointment and depression.  Hence the power of stability within is needed more than ever before! The transient nature of our existence means that life will unfold with moments here today and gone tomorrow. Cultivating a stable mind and clarity in thought is an anchor we must look to develop. 

Perhaps you wonder “if only things didn’t change, and I stick to what I know, my comfort zone, perhaps then I won’t be affected and thus be able to maintain stability?” 

In the early 1980’s a bio-dome experiment was carried out whereby scientists carried out a study facility in the middle of an American desert. They attempted to create perfect artifice living environments for humans, plants and animals. The facility was fully controlled, using purified air, water and lighting designed to mimic just the right growing conditions. 

In spite of all efforts the researchers found that the trees they added to the domes as living things proved to be very weak. After reaching a certain height they would fall. Initially the scientists could not figure out why the trees were failing to flourish. Then they came to realize that there was no wind in the facility. The effect was due to a lack of adversity in the domes, which meant the trees could not become sturdy. The roots were never challenged to grow deep enough into the soil, in order to support the trunk and branches above. 

We can learn much from these findings. Firstly, living things only become robust when they are tested. Its almost as though stability needs its equal opposite force, in order to be nurtured. If we seek to become stable when the conditions are perfect, or simply through standing still we will never grow. Stability is about weathering our way through life, and moving with and above the ups and downs. Stability is about withstanding the challenges life presents, and seeing these events as having some goodness, even though they may be aversive. Its about becoming emotionally, mentally and spirituality resilient enough to take on the tough times, and not become too overwhelmed by them. 

Trees go through so many marked changes having a ray of colors and fruits to offer in one season yet in autumn shedding its foliage leaving its branches bare. Despite this significant change it remains rooted and stable, standing the test of time. 

It is typical of the mind to perhaps do the opposite of stability – the mind wanders and can be quite restless in nature. As a therapist I often experiment with my clients in asking them NOT to think of a pink penguin to which they always do! It’s a live example of how difficult it is to control the mind. This means that the approach to stability doesn’t necessarily mean controlling the mind but rather to shift the minds focus on more positive aspects of a situation. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) offers an approach that encourages you to recognize your situation outside of yourself in order to review objectively the intimacy between thoughts and behaviors and to inevitably change the way we look at things. After all It has been said that “How you look at things just might change what you see!”. Aligning with the spirit of calm and nurturing this process can begin a journey of healing. CBT can support this journey by providing key tools and guidance to evolving and creating a stable mind, helping you separate yourself from situations and anchor into the stability within. 

Written by: Harishta Kaur, UK 

CBT Therapist 

Harishta achieved a degree in Psychology at the University of Huddersfield. She subsequently trained and qualified as a Psychological practitioner and as a High Intensity therapist in the NHS using an approach known as Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT).  She has kindly written this article for Culture minds. 

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